1. Almost everyone struggles with being as affirming and encouraging as they would like. Why do you think it is difficult for so many of us to build up our partner's self esteem? When in a relationship you get to see all of the good and bad in a person. Many times we focus on the good first, then are flabbergasted when we notice the bad later. Often we tend to blame our partner for this.
2. Recall a time when you felt affirmed and encouraged by your partner. What made it so meaningful and memorable? One morning Nate woke me up in the morning (which he normally does and I don't remember it). He told me how much he loves me and hopes I have a good day, then gave me a kiss. It just made me realize how much he loves me and goes out of his way to show me his love.
3. What is one specific area that you would like your partner to notice more? In other words, where could you use a little more affirmation? Most days I try to keep in contact with Nate and take time out to text him randomly or send him things that he would enjoy. He normally doesn't respond or mention it after.
4. Consider how you might devise a mental jogger to help you remember to boost your partner's self-esteem. What might it be for you? Probably a notification on my phone or a reminder on my desk in my office.
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